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Feb 25, 2019

“We don't want to simply bounce back, we want to bounce forward.” This week, on Embracing Intensity, Silver Huang shares her wisdom on the topic of resilience. As both a profoundly gifted and autistic individual, her perspective is simultaneously unique and universal. She lays out concepts that can be hard to grasp in a very tangible and actionable way. Plus, she’s just really fun to listen to!

In this talk, Silver will share:

  • Working definitions of adversity, resilience, and adaptability.

  • The importance of perspective.

  • How shifting our respective can change outcomes.

  • 6 practical templates to help shift your perspective and improve outcomes.


Embracing Intensity Community

Silver's Website


Feb 18, 2019

This week on Embracing Intensity, I'm sharing the first lesson of my Ignite Your Power Course. In this lesson, we will observe our own powers, get clear on how to harness them and develop a “power toolkit” to help harness them more. You can find the full group discussion and other materials related to the lesson in the Embracing Intensity Community

In this episode, I discuss: 

  • The 5 types of excitability.
  • How do your excitabilities look when suppressed, out of control and harnessed?
  • Tips for harnessing each excitability.
  • Improving your self-regulation skills.
  • What it looks like when you are "in the zone."
  • Developing a Power Toolkit.


Firmina Foundation

Ignite Your Power Course

Embracing Intensity Community

Feb 11, 2019

How do you think it feels to feel stifled and suppressed your whole life, always being told what to say and what to do? It doesn’t sound like a fulfilling way to live, does it? It’s especially difficult for someone with intensity, unable to express their thoughts and words. Today’s show tells the inside story.

Abbi Wood loves words and having fun with language. Perhaps this love stems from the fact that her words were suppressed for so long. She now loves the growth and evolution of words, and how new words emerge and old words become redundant, faster than you can say---redundant! As a kid, Abbi dreamed of getting a Ph. D. in the English language, and now she has more than 20 years under her belt working with words. She has a double degree in math and computer sciences because her family convinced her that making a living as a writer was an impossibility. A challenger by nature, Abbi fought against so-called “truths” her entire life. As a woman and a person of color, she heard more than her fair share of what to do and what to say in the world, and she’s learned to take what she hears with a grain of salt. She’s also learned how to think for herself and make up her own mind. Join us as we jump into Abbi’s story and her intensity.

Show HIghlights:

  • Why Abbi is passionate about being herself and being free from the burden of other people telling her what to do and say
  • Why Abbi likes helping her clients with being free and unburdened
  • Abbi’s own brand of intensity and what it looks like
  • Why she loves encouraging people to be themselves because she wasn’t allowed to do that for a long time
  • How Abbi tries to offset chaos by using organization and systems that work for her
  • How she wasn’t allowed to manifest her intensity while growing up
  • How can I be of service without being a slave to people-pleasing?
  • Why cultural factors led to Abbi feeling like she didn’t have the voice she wanted, in her family and in the world
  • Growing up in Pakistan, England, and the US
  • Why Abbi thought she could never accomplish the things she wanted
  • How Abbi felt like two different people: the one she was at home and the one she was out in the world
  • A time when Abbi felt out of control when it became harder and harder not to say what she wanted to say with her brothers
  • Abbi’s fears for her daughter, and not wanting her to grow up feeling stifled and suppressed
  • Abbi’s words to parents
  • How Abbi uses her fire for good in her business, helping people write what they want to say
  • How Abbi comes from a place of sharing what she loves
  • How she helps harness the power of intensity, with systems, lists, organization, and hacks
  • What the concept of “contaminated time” means for overwhelmed women
  • The importance of being connected and staying social
  • Abbi’s best advice from herself: “Find your freedom”
  • Abbi’s best advice from a book she read: “Focus on the ONE thing that will move you forward right now.”
  • Books that have helped Abbi and been impactful in her life
  • Vulnerability: what it is and what it is NOT
  • How Abbi helps others use their fire, by uncovering what’s inherent in them and demonstrating it with language
  • Why Abbi takes the time with her clients for intensive discovery
  • Abbi’s challenges to listeners: “I challenge you to be yourself, even though you might sometimes feel at odds with yourself and with the world. There is a method to the madness, so be who you are.”


Abbi Wood

The Age of Overwhelm by Laura van Dernoot

Profit First by Mike Michalowicz

Brene’ Brown books

The ONE Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan

Jan 28, 2019

How does it feel to identify as broken and immensely different from all those around you? If these feelings continue and compound, then one ends up feeling mentally ill---doomed to be always on the outside of normal.

Chris Wells joins us today from The Gifted Development Center in Westminster, CO. We met at the SENG conference, and then Chris’ name came up again in a conversation with Kate Arms, our guest from Episode 93. Chris has the knowledge and in-depth experience on the topic of positive disintegration. Her story is amazing--and you don’t want to miss it!

Something new we’re doing here in the Embracing Intensity community is profiling different members of the community to share who we are, what we’ve figured out, and how we can get to know and understand each other better. I’m giving you a sneak peek of my interview with Javon Fernanders, and you can find out more when you join us at Embracing Intensity.

Show Highlights:

  • What Chris is intensely passionate about, in light of her history of mental illness and giftedness--and why she’s become an advocate
  • What intensity looks like for someone who had “mental illness” since a young age
  • Why it’s taken Chris her whole life to temper the way she is and to be able to move through the world without causing problems
  • How intensity made everything more difficult because no one understood and she always felt alien and different
  • How she spent 12 years on disability for bipolar and panic disorder, wondering, “What’s wrong with me?”
  • Positive disintegration: a sign of strong developmental potential that says, “You are NOT broken.”
  • What it means to be an empath and to no longer feel so alone
  • The cultural factors that affected Chris and the messages she was raised with
  • Why she wishes people would have encouraged her in the things she wanted to do
  • How she “tuned herself out” and used her gifts to make adults’ lives difficult as a teen
  • How Chris got on the path to “figuring things out”--after getting kicked out of high school, going to drug rehab, and writing a book
  • Overexcitability and how it is misunderstood
  • Chris’ younger life---”Intensity out of control”
  • Why she felt like her personality wasn’t working anymore
  • How she uses her fire for good, in studying positive disintegration in incredible depth
  • Why she began studying Dabrowski’s Theory of Positive Disintegration
  • What has helped in harnessing the power of Chris’ intensity and how “life flows more now”
  • The best advice anyone ever gave Chris: From Linda Silverman, “Stop trying to fit in--and study Dabrowski’s theory.”
  • Personal habits that help her use her fire in positive ways, like writing
  • Books that have influenced Chris the most:
    • Ordinary People by Judith Guest
    • Mellow Out by Michael Piechowski
    • Living with Intensity by Susan Daniels and Michael Piechowski
  • How Chris helps others use their own fire
  • Building community and connection with support and affirmation


Chris Tane Wells

Parents of Twice Exceptional Kids

Jan 22, 2019

We are super excited to have Heather Boorman, of the Fringy Bit Podcast, share her talk on Self-Compassion from the SENG (Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted) conference last summer!

Self-Compassion has been proven to be an effective mindset and intervention toward more sustainable mental health and self-concept. This presentation will apply the work of Dr. Kristin Neff in the field of self-compassion to the gifted population and typical struggles faced by many gifted individuals. In particular, we will consider how Dabrowski’s super-stimulabilities and other typical psychosocial traits can lead to perfectionism, imposter syndrome, self-judgment, low frustration tolerance, depression, and anxiety. We will consider the ways in which society’s responses to giftedness and emphasis on self-esteem can also contribute to un-wellness in gifted children, youth, and adults. Self-compassion will then be defined and defended as an effective intervention toward increased wellness. Attendees will be introduced to, and participate in, exercises to increase self-compassion. The session will be a blend of lecture and interactive.

Learning Objectives:

  1. Participants will be able to identify at least 5 psychosocial traits typical within the gifted population
  2. Participants will be able to explain how typical psychosocial experiences of gifted individuals may contribute to un-wellness in the forms of perfectionism, imposter syndrome, low frustration tolerance, self-judgment, and mental health issues.
  3. Participants will be able to define self-compassion and identify the 3 components that contribute to self-compassion
  4. Participants will be able to identify and implement at least 3 interventions to increase self-compassion.

About the Author:

Heather Boorman lives an intensely joy-filled and full life as a homeschooling mom to 3 fringy kids and the executive director and therapist with Boorman Counseling. She passionately advocates for differently wired kids and adults through her work as a national speaker, writer & podcaster at The Fringy Bit. Heather’s also the author of The Gifted Kids Workbook, which provides mindfulness-based activities to help kids reduce stress, balance emotions, and build confidence.

About Embracing Intensity Group Calls:

Each month on the second Saturday, we will have a guest speaker dive into a topic they love followed by a discussion with the group. The talk will be shared on the podcast, but the discussion will only be shared with Embracing Intensity community members and patrons. The calls will be on the Zoom platform, which allows you to interact at whatever level you'd like (video, audio or use photo and chat box). There will be an opportunity for further discussion in the Embracing Intensity Community.


Fringy Bit Podcast

Embracing Intensity Community

Jan 14, 2019

Are you a humanitarian? Today's episode is with Jaiden Love, a healer, educator, and humanitarian and the author of the book Saving My Life. Jaiden is a very spiritual person who has been passionate about serving and helping others for all of his life. He has been running his own business for the last ten years, and although it has continually morphed and changed over this time, it has always been about helping people to live their truth. Listen in today to find out about Jaiden and the way that he helps people to become the very best version of themselves.

Jaiden has a really huge heart and wonderful energy that radiates right through the screen and microphone. As a healer, he is passionate about helping others to do their own inner work, so that they can learn to live their truth and their happiest life. As an educator, Jaiden strives to give people the tools to treat others with more compassion and respect. The combination of the two allows him to create and hold a safe space for people to reach the ultimate goal of greater connectedness and love in the world. Listen in to find out what Jaiden has to share in today's episode.

Show highlights:

  • How politics helped Jaiden to realize that he is actually a humanitarian.
  • Jaiden discusses the mindset block that he has always had towards being political, even though he now sees that being a humanitarian is a type of political stance.
  • The impact that Jaiden's intensity, sensitivity, and creativity had on him while growing up.
  • Jaiden has been putting other people's needs and happiness for most of his life. Now he knows that he needs to first take care of himself, in order to really be of help to others.
  • Jaiden is black and he was adopted and raised by a white family in a small, mostly white town, so there were a number of cultural factors that affected the way he expressed himself while growing up.
  • The difficulties that most people have with expressing their truth to themselves and to others.
  • Jaiden worked as a high-school counselor for about five years and listening to the students talking to him about their troubled home-lives had a deep impact on him, both emotionally and physically.
  • Jaiden is really passionate about nutrition and he sees that most people just don't realize how much the things they put in and onto their bodies actually affects them emotionally.
  • Jaiden started out as an energy healer and he explains why he combined spiritual coaching with that.
  • Jason explains that everything that is experienced on the physical level starts on the emotional and spiritual level.
  • Giving people the tools to cope with issues of gender identity.
  • The odd reactions that people tend to have towards the words 'God' and 'spirituality'.
  • Living your own truth, regardless of who and how you are.
  • The importance of feeling safe, and having love and support in your life.
  • What Jaiden's book, Saving My Life, is all about. The book is available from Amazon.


Jaiden's website: Held And Heard

Jaiden's email:

Jaiden's phone number: 503 757 1454

Jaiden is on Linkedin

To receive a 45-minute free consultation from Jaiden, contact him and tell him that you listened to this podcast.



Saving My Life by Jaden Jemel Love

Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse

The Disappearance of the Universe by Gary Renard

The Abundance Book by John Randolf Price

A Course In Miracles

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Our Find Your Power Zone Tool-kit Challenge starts on the 14th of January, as a way to kick off the growth of our new Embracing Intensity Community. Go to Embracing Intensity to find out more about the challenge and about our new community.

Jan 7, 2019

I'm back after my month off! I was supposed to be resting and taking a break, but last week I had some divine inspiration for the direction of the year to come!

In this episode:

  • I share about my entrepreneurial journey the past 4-5 years.
  • It all comes back to listening to your gut over "conventional wisdom"
  • Creating a vibrant community both online and in person. 
  • A peek at our upcoming events for 2019!


Power Zone Toolkit

Embracing Intensity Community

Dec 11, 2018

I'm taking the month of December off! Stay tuned in the new year for our awesome upcoming monthly group calls! And feel free to binge listen and share past episodes - there are a bunch of good ones to choose from! 

Nov 26, 2018

Are you a gifted adult? if so, are you putting your intellectual gifts to good use? Today we're super thrilled to be talking to Alexis P. Morgan. Alexis fills her time and earns her keep as a writer, artist, and troublemaking socialite. She does all of this as the proprietress of her blog, Death, Sex, and Taxes. Alexis is a truly remarkable person who has really shared so much of herself in her work, and in her powerful writing about her navigations as a gifted adult. Listen in today to find out what Alexis has to share about finding balance, as a gifted adult.

Black, leftist, and glorious, twenty-seven-year-old Alexis lives each day in the spirit of her devotion to truth, justice, and liberation. She particularly enjoys taking an ax to capitalism and oppressive fuckshit. She also loves spinning and telling tales about the universe and its many wonders. And oversharing about her own ongoing inner monologues. Listen in to find out what Alexis has to say about dealing with the challenges of having an overactive brain and really intense emotions. 

Show highlights:

  • Alex explains how her recent diagnosis of relapsing, remitting multiple sclerosis has affected her.
  • Alexis talks about her recent, bold decision to become trained as a professional dominatrix.
  • Inspiring social change through her writing.
  • Alexis initially started writing as a way of dealing with growing up in a toxic environment.
  • Her really difficult time in school.
  • How writing helped her to cope with her intensely active mind.
  • Being morbidly intense at the age of six.
  • Living in a state of hyper-arousal.
  • Realizing that there are many different ways to use one's gifts.
  • Alexis's interest in power dynamics.
  • We live in a culture that's very antagonistic towards neurodiversity.
  • Alexis sees herself as a culturally conditioned introvert in some ways.
  • Intensity does not imply irrationality.
  • Alexis uses her fire as a catalyzing force, rather than a destructive one.
  • Alex speaks about her first exposure to the world of kink and sex-positive.
  • How Alexis manages to relax.

Your Power Word Challenge for 2019:

Starting this week, we are going to go through a variety of exploration questions to discover the word for you to embody in 2019.

Links and resources:

Alexis's website: Death Sex And Taxes

Alexis on Facebook: Alexis P. Morgan

Book: Your Rainforest Mind by Paula Plover 


Nov 19, 2018

Your Rainforest Mind is one of my all-time favorite books for gifted adults, and we had the privilege of having author, Paula Prober, join us for a group call to discuss her book! In this episode, we share highlights from the conversation and inspiration for other rainforest minded people!

We explore questions including:

  • What are novel strategies to deal with the "fried circuits" of over-excitability outside of the standard "good self care?"
  • How do you approach communicating your excitable nature in groups or conversations where you are afraid you might come off as dominating or "too much."
  • How do you self-motivate when you don't have external forces pushing you forward?
  • Feeling the suffering of the world and responsibility to fix it.
  • How do you deal with the perfectionism that often comes with giftedness?


Find Your Power Word for 2019

Nov 12, 2018

Is your personality way too big for most people to handle? And do you find yourself sometimes trying to become smaller than you really are? Today we're super excited to have Arianna Bradford join us on the show! Arianna is an intensely passionate portrait photographer who specializes in senior portraits and boudoir photography. In addition to this, she's the founder and lead editor of the Not Your Average Mom (NYAM) Project, which is dedicated to celebrating strong women outside of the role of motherhood. Arianna really loves to talk and to express the ideas that she has going on in her head. She often found herself trying to curb the amount of talking she did when she was in high school, but it seldom worked for longer than ten minutes. Listen in today to find out what Arianna has to share about her passion and her fire.

Arianna was raised in a small town in Florida and spent the first twenty years of her life there. She thought that she would never leave. Due to unexpected circumstances, however, she moved to Texas and stayed there for about six years. During that time, she met her husband and they had two children, Miles and Charlie. Arianna, her husband, and their two young children now live in Happy Valley, Oregon. When she's not busy writing something or photographing people, Arianna enjoys reading, playing video games, or trying to sleep. Listen in today to find out more about Arianna and her brand of intensity.

Show highlights:

  • During the time that she was living in Texas, her desire to capture images of her small son rekindled Arianna's interest in photography.
  • Arianna loved the creative direction portion of photography when she started taking photos again, towards the end of 2014.
  • The hard part of photography for Arianna then was that there was not a lot of money to be made from it in Austen.
  • Discovering that she has a passion for working one-on-one with people, as a photographer- especially with women.
  • Arianna's main focus is on helping women realize their own individual power and strength.
  • What growing up was like for Arianna.
  • Arianna was raised to think past what people would tell her.
  • Being raised in a household with the attitude that you may as well be straightforward because people are going to judge you anyway.
  • It took Arianna a long time to realize that sometimes it wasn't her chasing people away. It was their own prejudices and problems that did that.
  • Arianna had to really try to curb her talking at high school, but it seldom worked for longer than ten minutes.
  • Wanting to be smaller than she was.
  • Most people believe that they need to be liked by as many people as possible.
  • An anxious moment that Arianna had back in college when she was struggling socially.
  • An incident that caused her anxiety and OCD to get out of control.
  • Arianna believes that all emotions, even negative ones, can be channeled into something positive.
  • She has made some of her greatest things in times of intense anger or sadness.
  • The NYAM project was born of intense anger in Arianna.
  • There are people who really identify with Arianna's writing.
  • Art has really helped Arianna with harnessing the power of her intensity.
  • Working hard on communication and trying to understand where other people are coming from.
  • Remember that there's nothing wrong with being firey. People don't have to love you and it's okay for your fire to warm some people more than others.

Books mentioned on the show:

Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling.


Arianna's photography website: Arianna Bradford Sign up to get their newsletter.

The NYAM Project website: NYAM 

Instagram: The NYAM Project

Aurora will be starting a challenge on her Express Your Power page, to walk you through different self-exploration questions. These can assist you in coming up with your power word, which is the word that you would like to embody in 2019.

Aurora will also share inspirations from other participants and there will be a daily raffle too, where you could win a power word pendant and a custom essential oil blend for the theme of the day. You can find this at Express Your Power page

Nov 5, 2018

It's been a while since I've done a solo episode, between my new schedule and our group call speaker recordings. This week, I'd like to share a bit about what we have coming down the pike in the Embracing Intensity Community! 


  • Share your questions for Author Paula Prober for next week's group call and book study with the author of Your Rainforest Mind on Sat. 11/10 at 10:00 AM Pacific - and don't forget to get your copy of her book!
  • Portland, Oregon Metro area folks, mark your calendar for an amazing in-person event hosted by Rukshana Triem
  • Our lineup of amazing talks coming up in our monthly group calls! Calls are always open and recordings will be shared to those on the call and Patrons on Patreon
  • How can I make my weekly Patreon post more valuable to you?
  • Launching of my Xpress Your Power store with 50% off Aromatherapy Necklaces. 
  • Lots of great upcoming interviews so keep your eyes and ears out!


XPress Your Power Store

Patreon Community

Oct 29, 2018

Did you know that you could help somebody by just being honest and transparent about who and how you are? It's such a validating experience to know that somebody really gets you. Today's interview is with René Brooks. René's been a typical ADHD personality for as long as she can remember, losing keys, books, homework, and even her glasses sometimes when they were on her face! Although she was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of eleven, she never received any treatment for it until she was twenty-five. So her experience of learning that she had something real and that it could be worked with, started at that point. Listen in to find out what René has to share today, about growing up as a gifted person with ADHD.

René created a blog, Black Girl Lost Keys, with the intention of sharing the experience of receiving a diagnosis of ADHD later in life, while being part of a demographic that is still mostly skeptical about mental illness. ADHD and giftedness are not mutually exclusive, and many people don't realize that, so it was often hard for René to be understood while growing up. Listen in today to hear her talking about the ups and downs of her life growing up with ADHD, and how she channels her intensity, her fire, and her passions.

Show highlights:

  • What's lacking in the world of neurodiversity.
  • The similar experiences of people with ADHD within René's particular cultural dynamic.
  • What René Remembers most vividly about being a gifted child.
  • Being understood, and taken in context, has become more important to René than whether she's liked or not by someone.
  • René discusses her ethical stance regarding politics, power, and the abuse of power.
  • René has had to learn to pull herself back at times, as she can alienate people with her 'correctness'.
  • Why René doesn't speak about the experiences of other people.
  • What ally-ship in action really ought to look like.
  • We tend to make things so much more complicated than we need to.
  • René had a difficult time growing up as gifted, with ADHD.
  • People often don't understand that giftedness and ADHD are not mutually exclusive.
  • We really need to make space in the world for people who don't follow convention.
  • The ridicule that can come from not conforming to cultural norms.
  • The story of Henrietta Lacks.
  • The way that black people have been exploited and made to suffer in the past by the medical community.
  • More honesty and transparency in people would ultimately result in less suffering.

Links and Resources:

René on all social media: Black Girl Lost Keys

Black Girl Lost Keys Blog

ADHD Essentials Podcast

Books mentioned:

The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, by Rebecca Skloot.

Far From The Tree, by Andrew Solomon

The book study with author Paula Prober of Your Rainforest Mind is coming up on the second Saturday in November. Get your copy of her book and join us for a great conversation and Q & A session. You can find out more on Patreon.

Oct 22, 2018

We live in a time that's being increasingly defined by activism and calls for social change. As gifted people, we're a part of this as well under the umbrella of the neurodiversity movement. In this talk, we'll take a short, powerful journey into the history, cultural systems, and real-life, everyday acts of activism that we call 'being different'. We'll define giftedness inside a new dimension- as an identity and culture, a unique way of sensing and experiencing the world. And you'll explore your own experiences and ideas to define your passion and priorities when it comes to social change for the gifted. You don't have to be an activist, a community organizer, or an influencer to fight for neurodiversity. You really just have to be yourself- authentically, resiliently, and prepared to speak-up for your needs.

Gifted Culture Project is the brainchild of Anamaria B Call. A gifted mom of two (and wife to a gifted engineer-slash-home-repair-hobbyist), she found herself one day faced with the daunting task of explaining to her son that he's gifted. With degrees and a background in linguistics and intercultural communication, she knew that she wanted to give him more than just a standard definition or even a simple story. She wanted him to understand his giftedness as a different way of experiencing the world. She also wanted him to have the social and emotional skills to handle and thrive in situations where being different is hard.

Join us for our October Embracing Intensity Group Call talk with Anamaria Call, and access the full video with discussion in our Patreon Community.

Anamaria has worked in public education and refugee resettlement where she spent more than eight years talking, training, and supporting people of different cultures (and different experiences of the world) to communicate effectively and to better understand each other.

She lives in Vancouver, Washington (in the metro Portland area) and spends her days raising two quirky, wonderful kiddos. She also reads, thinks, and writes A LOT while gently testing the limit on the number of books she's allowed to check-out from her local library.

Oct 15, 2018

You do want to do the very best for your children, right? And help them reach their full potential? At times we need some guidance with that, so today we are thrilled to welcome Julie Skolnick, the founder of With Understanding Comes Calm LLC, to the show. With Understanding Comes Calm passionately guides the parents of gifted and distractable children, mentors, 2E adults, advisers, educators, and professionals, on bringing out the best and raising self-esteem in their students and clients. Through raising her three twice-exceptional kids, Julie became intensely passionate about guiding parents and training teachers and clinicians to look at their caseload through a 2E lens. Listen in today to find out how Julie channels her particular brand of intensity.

Julie has a real passion for building self-esteem in 2E individuals. She is secretary to Maryland's Gifted And Talented Advisory Council. She is the Maryland liaison for supporting the emotional needs of the gifted (SENG), she reviews parenting strength conference proposals, and she's a committee member for the National Association For Gifted Children (NAGC). Julie serves as an adviser to  “The G Word” feature documentary, which is currently in production. Through the digital media division of With Understanding Comes Calm, Let's Talk To E, Julie is producing two days of 2E virtual conference. Julie is a frequent speaker and prolific writer. She produces a monthly newsletter called Gifted and Distractable. Join us today to find out what she has to share.

Show highlights:

  • Julie explains what she is intensely passionate about.
  • Julie explains what her personal brand of intensity is like.
  • You shouldn't always have to turn your intensity down.
  • Julie explains her intense connectivity.
  • What growing up so intensely was like for Julie.
  • Finding someone who really understands you.
  • Hugs are really necessary.
  • Some people suffer from sensory deprivation as a result of technology.
  • Stay true to yourself and enjoy your life!
  • About Julie's blog called 'Don't just do something, stand there'.
  • Every moment can be a learning moment- and a moment for growth.
  • Julie's whole life changed- and now she brings what she discovered to the world.
  • What helps Julie harness the power of her intensity.
  • The importance of positive self-talk.


Julie's website: With Understanding Comes Calm

You can subscribe to Julie's newsletter at the bottom of any page of her website.

Julie's email: 

Julie's Two Days of 2E virtual conference is launching on Friday and Saturday, October 26th and 27th. After that, they will be on-demand through to April 2019.



Ross Green @

Lost at School

Blessing of a Skinned Knee

A Parents' Guide to Gifted Children

To Be Gifted and Learning Disabled by Sue Baum and Robin Shader

Lord of the Flies by William Golding

Oct 8, 2018

This week we celebrate Embracing Intensity's 100th episode! Join Aurora, past guests and audience members as they share, "What does Embracing Intensity mean to me?"

In this episode:

Xpress Your Power Store

Embracing Gifted Facebook Page

Embracing Intensity on Patreon

League of Excitable Women on Facebook

Oct 1, 2018

Would you like to make a difference? And help in transforming the world and making it a better place for everyone? Today we are really happy to have Andréa Ranae with us on the show and she's intensely passionate about social justice and liberation. Andrea is a vision led facilitator and coach, who firmly believes that together we rise. She has a program called Coaching As Activism, which she offers to people at a variety of different levels, in order to make it fully accessible to anyone who really needs it. Listen in today to find out what Andrea has to share about emotions, personal growth, and social transformation.

Andréa is deeply devoted to doing whatever she can to cultivate a world that works for everyone! To achieve this, she places her work at the intersections of personal growth, social justice, and conscious business. Andréa supports people through her Coaching As Activism program, and also by doing transformative work with them, to deepen their impact by looking critically at the way that their lives and work are connected to social change. Andrea is the co-founder of Whole Self Liberation and she offers practical tools, resources, and wisdom to people who are really committed to making change happen in their lives and communities. As a coach and consultant, Andréa works with entrepreneurs, businesses and organizations that want to be more inclusive and impactful through their approach to leadership, marketing, and company culture. Listen in today to find out more.

More in this episode:

Andréa explains what she is intensely passionate about and she describes her own, personal brand of intensity.

The effect that Andrea's intensity had on her while growing up.

Andréa learned ways to hold herself back, in order to make other people feel more comfortable with her and not worry about her, when she was growing up.

The cultural factors that affected the way that Andrea could express herself while growing up.

Andréa found it really difficult to deal with her anger.

Andréa felt that she had to tone herself down for most of her teenage years.

A time in college when Andréa's emotional intensity got out of control.

The way that Andréa uses her fire for good.

When the pain of being black in America really sank in for Andrea and caused her to deeply examine grief.

The collective pain that we all share as humans.

The disservice that we pay ourselves by avoiding our feelings.

Why Andréa is so passionate about the work she does.

Overwhelming feelings and powerlessness about what's going on in the world.

Figuring out what you have to contribute.

Harnessing the power of her intensity has allowed Andrea to show up more sustainably.

Being okay with being yourself.

About Andréa's Coaching As Activism program.


Books mentioned on the show:

The Alchemist, by Paolo Coelho


Andréa's website: Andrea Ranae

Look out for our 100th episode next week where we will be sharing some recordings from our past guests and audience, answering the question "What does embracing intensity mean to you?". If you'd like to be on the podcast, please send a recording of your response to Aurora before Friday, October 5th. You can email Aurora at

Sep 17, 2018

How would you like to see the world becoming a more loving, caring, and sensitive place? Today we are very happy to have  Dr. Dan Peters, a really warm-hearted humanitarian, with us on the show. Dr. Dan has a  rich history of achievements throughout his life and he is driven to help others achieve as much as possible in their lives too! He is a co-founder of Parent Footprints, an online, interactive, parent training community, with their goal to make the world a more loving and compassionate place- one parent and one child at a time. Aurora first met Dr. Dan at a SENG (Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted) conference a few years ago. She later started following his Summit Center newsletter, and then more recently, his Parent Footprint podcast. Listen in to find out what he has to share on the show today.

Dr. Dan is a licensed psychologist and the co-founder and executive director of The Summit Centre, which specializes in the assessment and treatment of children, adolescents, and families, with a special emphasis on gifted and twice-exceptional individuals. He has authored the Make Your Worrier A Warrior series and has also co-authored Raising Creative Kids. He is a frequent contributor to both the Huffington Post and Psychology Today. Dr. Dan won an award at the SENG conference this past summer. Listen in today, to find out more!

More in this episode:

  • Dan explains what he is intensely passionate about.
  • What Dr. Dan's own, personal brand of intensity is like, for him.
  • How his intensity affected him while growing up.
  • Talking with kids about their superpowers.
  • Some cultural factors that could have affected his expression.
  • The times that Dr.Dan needs to tone himself down or tune himself out.
  • A time that Dr. Dan's intense sensitivity felt really out of control.
  • The way that he uses his fire for good.
  • Always having his goal in mind.
  • Dan's strengths and challenges in his executive functioning.
  • The best advice that Dr. Dan ever received.
  • Some personal habits that help Dr. Dan to use his fire in a positive way.
  • The books that have had the most influence on him.
  • How Dr. Dan helps others to use their fire.


Books mentioned in the show:

Make Your Worrier A Warrior series by Dr. Dan Peters

Raising Creative Kids by Daniel Peters and Susan Daniels

The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck

The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

The Way of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman

The Power of Now by Eckhardt Tolle

I Can See Clearly Now by Wayne Dwyer


Dr. Dan's website: Dr. Dan Peters

Parent Footprint website: Parent Footprint

Summit Center website: Summit Center


Sep 10, 2018

Have you ever heard the term twice-exceptional? In this episode of Embracing Intensity, I share what it means and why it's important. 


  • My own story of twice-exceptionality. 
  • Why twice-exceptional people often don't get identified. 
  • What happens when some skills are super high and others are "average."
  • When difficult things seem easy, yet easy things can be really hard. 
Sep 3, 2018

Kimberly Berry is originally from California and is the host of the Being Unnormal Podcast which focuses on mental health, especially children’s mental health. She is also very passionate about child hunger and poverty and Kimberly wants to educate and help people seek the help they need. Kimberly believes that there currently remains such a stigma that it prevents people from seeking help from a professional. Kimberly is responsible for the “Summer Lunch Program,” she founded “Holiday Hope,” and is the director of the “Adolescent Mental Health Summit” which will target parents and educate them on issues that are affecting our youth.

Show Highlights:

  • Kimberly shares her personal brand of intensity
  • Factors that intensity affected Kimberly while growing up
  • How Kimberly tones down or tunes out
  • Kimberly describes ways her intensity could feel out of control in the past.
  • Kimberly shares a personal story about her daughter’s attempt at suicide and how she dealt with it
  • How she uses her fire for good
  • What has helped Kimberly harness the power of her intensity
  • Kimberly shares her personal habits that really fuel her intensity

Resources Mentioned in the Show:

Podcast  on iTunes

@Beingunnormal on Facebook

@Beingunnormal on Instagram

Scream Free Parenting, by Hal Edward Runkel

The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz

The Gifts of Imperfection, by Brené Brown

The Power of Habit, by Charles Duhigg

The Tony Robbins Podcast

Aug 28, 2018

On this week's episode of Embracing Intensity, I'm sharing my talk from the SENG (Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted) conference in San Diego on The Embracing Intensity Journey

I share insights gained from interviewing gifted and outside the box thinkers on my Embracing Intensity Podcast including overarching themes and what tools and habits have helped them to use their fire in a positive way. The participants will then have the opportunity to share their practices that have helped embrace their own intensity.

Get access to the full talk with discussion on Patreon!

In this episode:

  • Childhood Sensitivity
  • Messages of "too much"
  • Toning Down & Tuning Out
  • Living Within The Lines
  • Catalyst
  • Using your fire for good!



Talk Slides

Aug 20, 2018

Aurora met today’s special guest, Kate Arms,  at the SENG conference recently and was so inspired by her talk entitled  "Thriving with Intensity: Mining The Magic From Your Overexcitabilities” that she knew Kate would be the perfect fit for the podcast. Kate’s professional background includes working in a myriad of careers including being a lawyer, administrator, artist, writer, and coach. Kate describes her Signal Fire Coaching Program as a vehicle for her to do her life’s work: helping people thrive as the fullest version of themselves and creating effective systems that support the people working within them.

More in this episode:

  • Kate’s shares details about her personal intensity.
  • Factors that affected Kate’s intensity while growing up
  • Kate describes ways her intensity could feel out of control in the past.
  • Channeling ways of questioning others
  • Using leadership thinking to question self
  • How theater can help intense individuals.
  • No one person will have all the answers for you.
  • Kate’s personal practices
  • The personal passion that fuels Kate's intensity
  • The magic question

Resources Mentioned in the Show:

How to donate to help keep the podcast going via Patreon

website: Thrive With Intensity

website: Parents of Twice Exceptional Kids

website: Signal Fire Coaching

Signal Fire Coaching on Facebook

Signal Fire Coaching on Twitter

Undoing Depression, by Richard O’Connor

Making It All Work, David Allen

Aug 13, 2018

If you are a multipotentialite, do you prefer to cycle through interests or do a whole bunch of different things at once? In this week's episode of Embracing Intensity, I discuss my own tendencies when it comes to pursuing multiple passions and why I'm moving from a lot of varied activities at once to focusing on just a small few. 

In this episode, I discuss:

  • Rainbow people vs. specialists.
  • Where I'm a specialist.
  • Learning about our learning. 
  • How you can join our upcoming group call on the Embracing Intensity Journey!

Related Links:

Find Your Superpower Course

Upcoming Group Call 

Aug 6, 2018

Are you struggling with a difficult relationship? Would you like to find out how to use this hardship as a means to transform your life and discover yourself spiritually? Sunny Joy McMillan joins us on the show today and she is a happy divorcee. After a high-conflict marriage, she learned how to have a really awesome post-divorce friendship with her ex-husband, until he passed away in 2018. Sunny is passionate about empowering adults to make soul-based relationship choices and using divorce as a catalyst for personal transformation and spiritual awakening. Listen in today to find out what she has to share about how she guides people towards making their relationship choices based on heart and soul, rather than culture, family, or social concerns.

Sunny describes herself as a recovering attorney and she is also a practicing master life coach, having done her coach-training and certification through Dr. Martha Beck's program. She has recently written a book, called Unhitched, which will be coming out in December. Sunny also hosts a weekly radio show, Sunny In Seattle, where she interviews inspiring guests like Gay Hendricks, Neil Donald Walsch, Mark Nepo, and many others. Listen in today to find out more.

Show highlights:

  • Sunny explains what she is intensely passionate about.
  • What took Sunny out of the life that she no longer wanted to live.
  • How Sunny's former life as an attorney helps her to guide people through her process.
  • What Sunny's own brand of intensity looks like.
  • The way that Sunny managed to free herself from a life that did not work for her.
  • What Sunny's book is all about.
  • The way that Sunny's intensity affected her while she was growing up.
  • Sunny has had to get used to feeling comfortable in her own skin.
  • Cultural factors that affected the way that Sunny used to feel about herself.
  • What Sunny has learned about her own self-worth?
  • The people that Sunny looks up to.
  • The really messy life that Sunny used to live.
  • Sunny explains her need to become a whole person.
  • The way that Sunny uses her fire for good.
  • Sunny's current purpose in her life.
  • How having a spiritual awakening has changed Sunny's life.


Book mentioned on the show: Steering By Starlight by Martha Beck.

For your free, electronic copy of Sunny's book, go to Unhitched Book     

For my Patreon Pledge Drive go to Patreon to get great bonuses for signing up. This is where you can join us for the group call.

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