In today’s show, I introduce you to a good friend who has been an anchor for me in creating a community over the last ten years, both in-person and online. Join us!

Lana Quackenbush has been part of my Ignite Your Power program for several years, and she frequently joined the monthly Embracing Intensity guest calls last year. I’ve seen from the beginning of our relationship what an amazing person she is and how she’s learning to own the uniqueness of who she is. Lana and I both love helping people find connections in the common experiences of intensity, giftedness, twice-exceptionality, and creativity.

Show Highlights:

• Why Lana identifies as a mixed-race, newlywed, preschool teacher who loves peacemaking and doing the right thing
• How Lana’s personal brand of intensity revolves around her qualities of being intensely intellectual, perfectionistic, and judgmental
• Why as a Virgo, Lana has to work on finding balance in many ways
• Growing up, Lana’s mom told her she was “exhausting,” and she had a hard time sleeping as a sickly child who learned to tune out her body’s signals
• The cultural factors that added to the “tornado of chaos” in Lana’s biracial, highly social family; it was always stressed to her the importance of “presenting” herself well
• How Lana learned to tune herself out or tone herself down in light of her mother’s postpartum depression and the realization that her needs weren’t always going to be met
• How Lana’s intensity gets out of control at times when she is wronged, and her self-righteous indignation kicks in
• The shift for Lana in finding a relationship that uplifts her intensity in a positive way
• How Lana uses her fire for good as she spends her days teaching two-year-olds and shows interest in families, children, and their parents
• Why Lana loves to see the emotional model of raising children reign over the intellectual model
• How Lana harnesses the power of her intensity by doing yoga and studying Buddhism
• How Lana follows her varied interests in phases, organizes spaces in her home to meet her needs, and imposes rules for herself about cleaning up one area before moving on
• Lana’s inspirational to-do list hack: she writes her list on business cards so the list is manageable, and she can feel the satisfaction of checking off each item
• Why Lana is ever-so-grateful that she followed the best advice she ever received: “Don’t make any permanent life choices before age 25.”
• Books that Lana recommends: Ishmael by Daniel Quinn and The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield
• How Lana helps others use their fire by kid-wrangling, making spaces for them, and meeting their needs
• Why Lana is learning to identify proudly as a person of color

Resources:

 Ishmael by Daniel Quinn

The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

Find Lana on Instagram: ThatLanaLady

We are celebrating our 4th anniversary, 101K downloads! At this rate, I’ll make 200K in ½ the time! Keep sharing and listening so the message of Embracing Intensity can spread to those who need it! 

For this week’s special episode, I asked audience and community members to share “What does Embracing Intensity mean to me?” I left it deliberately open ended, and got a wonderful variety of answers ranging from the meaning of the phrase, to the importance of the community.

In this episode:

• Celebrating intensity, and harnessing its power.
• Tuning in to the messages of our intense feelings. 
• Finding community that not only accepts, but appreciates your differences. 

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Leah K Walsh Coaching

Jeff's Peer Support Page

Tiffany's Lucy in the Sky: Therapy with a Pen

Mezclados Studio

Get your free Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook!

As this show airs, we’re reaching two important milestones. We hit the 100K downloads mark, which is thrilling in itself. We also are approaching the fourth anniversary of the Embracing Intensity podcast, which means we’ve been at this for quite a while now! Reach out to me at Aurora Remember and let me know what “embracing intensity” means to you. We will feature these in our upcoming anniversary show next week! For now, enjoy another informative show with my inspiring guest who I've been a fan of for quite some time.

Seth Perler’s life’s work has been dedicated to helping kids overcome executive functioning challenges so they can have great futures despite our outdated educational systems. Seth’s mission is to help compassionate and proactive parents, educators, and others who care about kids. He wants to give honest, practical, and unconventional approaches to helping complicated, struggling students without BS or misinformation. He wants to teach the world about executive function, which is at the root of student struggles. Seth’s vision is a day when we don’t need executive functioning coaches because education is wildly successful at empowering all students with everything they need to have happy, healthy, and successful lives.

Show Highlights:

• Why Seth is intensely passionate about helping struggling students and changing educators to understand these kids better

• How Seth grew up as a curious, free-spirited kid who loved animals and nature but never fit into “the box” in school

• How Seth was labeled as a lazy, irresponsible failure--and his “fire was squelched”

• How Seth became a teacher of gifted kids but soon became frustrated with the system

• How Seth’s personal brand of intensity loves nature and the environment and feels the suffering of other people, animals, and plants

• Why Seth hates to see kids struggle to be understood

• How Seth is intense with his sensory experiences and emotions

• How kids’ feelings are invalidated by cultural factors that teach them that acknowledging their feelings is not OK

• Why Seth had a hopeless and cynical attitude as a kid, knowing he was “not like the other kids”

• How Seth learned to escape by going into social settings to avoid being alone

• Why Seth felt trapped by his “darkness”

• How Seth lived in his problem until he found the tools to step into the solution

• How Seth uses his fire for good by teaching what he most needs to learn and using what he has struggled with to help others

• How Seth harnesses the power of his intensity through meditation, the #1 way he understands himself

• Seth’s advice to those who don’t think they can meditate

• How Seth helps kids learn to shine through new mindsets, systems, and routines

• Seth’s advice:

  • Focus on helping others with a heart and spirit of service

  • Meditate and have times of stillness

  • Learn to journal

  • Get in touch with your story to know what is BS and what is truth

Resources:

Connect with Seth:   Seth Perler  and Executive Function Summit  

Find Seth on YouTube and his podcast, Learn Smarter.

As I approach the 4th anniversary of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, I find myself and the podcast approaching a bunch of milestones in a short time! The biggest one being that I'm rapidly approaching the 100K download mark! 

In this episode:

• Help us reach 100K and enter to win an Embracing Intensity T-shirt!
• Exciting milestones for the podcast. 
• Updates on the Embracing Intensity Community for this year and next!
• Overview of my coaching and assessment process. 
• Other creative projects.
• Stay tuned next week for a great interview!

Links: 

Contact me to send a recording for our anniversary episode by answering "What does Embracing Intensity mean to me?" 

Embracing Intensity Community

Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook