Have you ever found yourself confusing drama for passion? As intense people, we can be drawn to the allure of the dramatic. In this week's episode, Aurora shares thoughts sparked by last week's interview with Alexandra Loves exploring relationships that challenge us vs. relationships that diminish us.

In this Episode, Aurora:

• Experiments with recording through Facebook Live.
• Shares a bit of her own history of drama and passion in relationships. 
• Differentiates between relationships that challenge, and relationships that diminish. 

Love is the very fabric of the universe, and I get so excited when I see someone using their intensity to spread the love around. My guest this week is Alexandra Loves, and I actually approached a year ago to be on the show. I’m so glad we decided to wait until now, because my connection with Alexandra has grown and bloomed during that time, giving us plenty to talk about! Alexandra is a Love Attraction Coach, Intuitive Spiritual Guide, and Entrepreneur. She is on a mission to catalyze creative power, and use her intuitive spirituality to guide her clients into their best existence. In everything she does, Alexandra is all about harnessing the power of that abundant universal fabric from which everything is made, Love.

Today, Alexandra and I are talking about how intensity can be a force for good, for love, and for large-scale transformation. Because of her international upbringing, Alexandra feels comfortable talking to just about anyone. Added to that, she never felt the need for all the labels and stereotypes in the world today, yet the world seems inclined to want to place them on everyone. Rather than let that be the reason for toning herself down, Alexandra has fully embraced who she is and what she stands for. Now she is using her gifts to help people find love, find meaning, and find who they really are.

Alexandra is teaching us today how to use our intuition. Once we begin listening, nothing can hold us back, and we can only increase our impact on what is going on around us. Alexandra says it best, “We are changing the world right now.”

More in this episode:

• Alexandra shares why she is so committed to understanding her gifts and using them for a higher purpose.
• Alexandra is on a search of Absolute Truth, and she is OK with that definition evolving over time.
• In love, Alexandra embraces the “Wise Beyond Her Years” label.
• Much of Alexandra’s practice deals with reconciling gender expectations within men and women.
• Alexandra is on a mission to help us understand the dangers instant gratification.
• The cultural factors that have shaped Alexandra’s ability to embrace her intensity and her racial identity.
• The segregation and racial terms that put shackles around Alexandra’s neck.
• Alexandra toned herself down in terms of dating and intensity.
• How Alexandra realized she couldn’t tone herself down anymore.
• Everyone struggles under assumptions and stereotypes, and we need to be aware of that!
• Alexandra was able to heal from a damaging relationship because of her incredible support system and her own intuition.
• What habits Alexandra uses to fuel her fire.
• Alexandra helps women do the hard work of diving deep within themselves.
• Learn to recognize when you are being diminished.

Links:

Alexandra Loves

Do you ever get so stuck when something doesn't work how it should that you make even more work than there has to be? This week, Aurora shares an experience that reminded her to stop and pause to examine when it's time to pivot and when it's time to persist. 

In this episode, Aurora:

• Examines her own tendency to make things more difficult than they need to be sometimes.
• Explores the restructuring of her tools and resources so that more people can access them.
• Shares her excitement for an upcoming interview that may well be her favorite interview yet!

Many Intense women often find that by toning themselves down, they also lose sight of their authentic self. When we are able to tap into our inner being, we open up the powerful tool of intuition, and it will never let us down. Today, I am delighted to bring to you a story of one woman who spent years trying to fit in by tuning her intuitive voice out, but then fully embraced herself to then bring about amazing change. This is the story of Heather Coale Schwarts, a former Psychologist turned healer and spiritual guide. Heather believes that when we tap into our inner power, we can create a life of freedom and passion for ourselves. We simply need to learn to listen to our voice of intuition.

Heather is passionate about bringing about a spiritual awakening because that is exactly what happened to her. Once she learned to express the fullness of her spirit, Heather then turned her focus towards other people. What she found was a depth of connection that rivaled any relationships she had before, and now she can explore all the wonders of this world. Heather is going to share stories of how she first looked to Psychology, rather than her own inner voice for answers. She will share the cultural impacts of being a gay woman, as well as those childhood experiences that first quieted her inner voice. At one point in her life, Heather had cut herself off from her own life force, and she began to disappear.

Not wanting anyone else to fade, Heather is sharing her wisdom and light with you today. She is one fiery woman who embraces passion and encourages intensity. I knew from the early days of this podcast that her story would fit right into our community of intense, passionate guests. It’s time to stop tuning out your own voice, and trust your intuition!

More in this episode:

• Heather shares her story of finding the freedom to fully express herself.
• Learning to “make it” is less about what the world has to offer, and more the inward passion to fuel you there.
• Learn to listen to the intuitive voice rather than the fear voice.
• Heather is intensely passionate and enthusiastic. She drives herself.
• How meditation practices can help you tap into your own energy and intuition.
• There is a metaphysical spiritual approach to the work Heather does that allows others to experience beyond their feelings.
• Growing up, Heather had several intense experiences that led her to express her voice.
• Heather shares how her experiences as a gay woman led to toning herself down and keeping her life a secret.
• When Heather was a therapist, she had to tone down her intensity all the time.
• What Heather does when her intensity gets out of control.
• Heather identifies as a Fire-type person. Hear how it fuels her own brand of intensity.
• Being true and nourishing to herself has allowed Heather to harness her inner fire.
• Heather connects to other people through a different avenue now that she knows herself.
• Discover how intuitive visualization, Reiki healing, and play have led Heather to a healthy lifestyle.
• The role of laughter in a full life.
• Heather helps women connect to their greatness by acknowledging sensitivity, and then grounding them with intuitive and energetic strategies.

Resources:

Heather Online

Authentic Sensitive

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